Just Say Don’t

Just Say Don’t

If you have a hard time accomplishing your goals, changing your vocabulary may be the first step toward success. This is particularly true when you’re trying to lose weight, eat healthier foods or work out at the gym, according to a series of experiments published in...
Anger is Good

Anger is Good

Many of my clients come to therapy with an “anger problem.” They believe that anger is bad, that it has no place in relationships, and that “controlling” anger means to eliminate it. It’s true that explosive anger can demolish a relationship. Over time, verbal...
How to Train a Whale

How to Train a Whale

We can learn amazing lessons about successful relationships from animal trainers. I’m not talking about getting a monkey to dance around in a tutu. Sure, that’s amusing, but teaching a killer whale to jump 25 feet out of the water with a trainer on its nose is...