Individual Therapy

Back in 2001, I decided to get Lasik surgery to correct severe nearsightedness. I did all my research. I selected the highest-regarded (and most likely the highest-priced) eye surgeon in Southern California.

But something went wrong.

The doctor left the machine on too long and removed too much of my corneas, causing swelling and double vision.

I’m fine now, but for about six months I was terrified I would never see clearly again. It felt like I had been living in a snow globe and that someone had shaken my life to bits. I waited in shock for the pieces to crash down around me.

And during those six months, I realized that only my closest friends knew what I was going through physically and emotionally.

I got by. When I couldn’t read the menu, I waited for someone else to order and asked for the same thing. I pretended to recognize faces until I could recognize the voices. I arranged to work from home, putting in extra (unpaid) hours to complete my assignments.

I was a pretty good faker. I fooled almost everyone.

Most of my clients are a lot like me that way.

They’re pretty good fakers, too. They make their struggles invisible to others.

From the outside, everyone sees them as successful. They make a decent living. They have people in their lives who love them.

But they worry about themselves. They know something’s wrong. They should be happy, but they’re not. They feel like a fraud.

More than anything, they don’t want anyone to know they’re suffering. And, for the most part, no one does.

But then the secrets start to come out.

Like when they snap at their kid for what even they admit later is a stupid thing.

Or when they start crying for no reason.

Or when they cancel plans… again… because they just don’t have the energy to leave the house and be with other people.

Or when they can’t focus on the conversation because they’re so worried about… pretty much everything.

Individual counseling can help.

If you can relate to any of these examples, and especially if you are tired of living your life the way you’re living it now, maybe it’s time to talk.

There’s a quotation by Anais Nin I like a lot:

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.

Have you reached the point in your life where you simply refuse to keep doing what you’ve been doing for as long as you can remember?

Are you ready to change, to grow and to blossom?

If so, call me at 720.837.3466 for a free 20-minute consultation. Together we can decide if I’m the right guy to help you transform your life.

Don’t wait another day. It’s your turn now. It’s time to heal.