by Martin Dee | Anger management, Relationships
You’ve probably been told many times that, when someone hurts you deeply, you have to forgive and forget if you ever want to experience peace in your life. The problem with that advice is this: Unless you have surgery to remove the painful memories from your brain,...
by Martin Dee | Anger management, Communication, Life skills, Relationships
Two of the most powerful words in the English language are and and but. In a split second, the word but can demolish our most loving thoughts, kindest words and best intentions. For example: “I love you more than I’ve ever loved anyone else in my entire life, but …”...
by Martin Dee | Anger management, Depression and anxiety
I wish we had another word for depression because many men refuse to believe they have it – even though about 12 percent of them do. In general, women know when they feel sad, hopeless and pessimistic. They may cry, find it hard to get out of bed, isolate themselves...
by Martin Dee | Anger management, Communication, Relationships
Many of my clients come to therapy with an “anger problem.” They believe that anger is bad, that it has no place in relationships, and that “controlling” anger means to eliminate it. It’s true that explosive anger can demolish a relationship. Over time, verbal...
by Martin Dee | Anger management, Communication, Relationships
Whoever came up with the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” must have been living on a different planet than the rest of us. It’s true that sticks and stones can cause quite a bit of damage. They certainly should be avoided. But...
